Housekeeping and The Law of Attraction

I’ve been writing a series of blog posts about Magickal Housekeeping and the spiritual aspects of the home, room by room.  Starting with the spiritual power of Clearing Your Space and getting rid of clutter I’ve challenged myself and my readers to begin to declutter the home.  I’ve so far covered the Bathroom and the Bedroom and will be moving on to the Kitchen soon.

This post is a bit of a follow-up on the original post on this series – Clutter As A Block To Spiritual Flow.  I wanted to talk again about the Law of Attraction.  As mentioned in my original post, Clutter and mess can be a factor in slowly draining away energy, or blocking the flow of energy in your home.  The best of intentions and the positive thinking that are crucial aspects of the Law of Attraction can be diminished if your home is in disarray.

Trust me, my home is far from clean and organized!  I’m probably the last person to be telling someone else how to get organized!  But, I’ve recognized it as a challenge for myself and have learned a lot over the past few years.  My housework has become a spiritual practice – giving it meaning instead of letting it feel like a chore that I do grudgingly.  I often fall behind on my goals and upkeep – I suffer from Chronic Migraines that end up limiting how much I can do from day to day.  When I feel good, I often spend my time playing “catch up” on the chores like laundry, dishes, and basic cleaning. This is part of why I’m challenging myself to de-clutter and get organized.  It is much easier to maintain and “catch up” when there isn’t all this extra stuff cluttering up the place!  Plus I know I have felt a difference in a room that has less junk.  When the things in a room all serve a purpose – and they are all either useful or beautiful – the room functions as it is designed.

Here are some of my thoughts about The Law of Attraction and how it applies to the home and housekeeping:

  • Everything around you elicits some kind of emotional response or thought.  The pile of papers on your desk that need to be organized – makes you feel stressed, overwhelmed, or panicked at the thought of those upcoming bills or things to do.  The beautiful trinket that is a family heirloom and makes you think of a beloved family member can bring feelings of comfort or belonging.  The gift that was given to you by an Ex – while it is nice and you like it, just reminds you of the failed relationship or the anger associated with that person.  The clean countertop with a beautiful vase of flowers makes you feel refreshed and joyful every time you walk past it.  Now, thinking of the Law of Attraction and how our thoughts and feelings attract things to our lives – which of the above examples would you want around you?  It’s easier to maintain the positive thinking when you’re surrounded by things that promote feelings of positivity.  And much harder to maintain the positive attitude when things around you are consistently making you feel stressed, regretful, or sad.

  • What are you thinking of while you clean the house?  If you’re thinking “I hate doing this.” or feeling angry that other household members haven’t helped out as much as they should; what effect is that having on the Law of Attraction?  If you can maintain some level of mindfulness while you do your chores, however – you can change those simple jobs into a beautiful experience.  While you wash the dishes, try focusing on feelings of gratitude.  After all if you have dirty dishes it means that you had food to eat.  You have running water and dishes to eat off of.  When you sweep or mop the floor you can visualize sweeping away the negativity or any stress that may have entered your home.  When you fold the laundry you can focus on feelings of love and protection for each family member.  There are many ways you can turn those chores into active meditations or spiritual rituals.  And then they become a powerful source of positivity to contribute to the Law of Attraction, rather than moments of frustration or anger that are attracting the wrong sort of energy.

  • Taking care of your home is a strong expression of LOVE – for yourself and your family.  I love the website www.FlyLady.org and the methods FlyLady teaches.  Her primary message is that cleaning your home is a powerful act of Self Love.  F.L.Y. stands for “Finally Loving Yourself” and she teaches that creating simple routines and doing little things every day to bless your home is simply another act of self care.  Just as we must care for our body with healthy diet and hygiene, we must take care of our environment as well.  Not only does it do the obvious part of providing a sanitary place to eat and sleep; it also promotes an environment that is good for our mental and spiritual health.  Avoiding the stress of trying to find some important paperwork that was lost in a pile of clutter.  Feeling more empowered to go about the tasks of the day because you have a plan, a routine.  Having more time to focus on the things that truly bring us joy and satisfaction. 

Having a “Perfect” home is not the goal.  It’s about creating a home that is functional to what you need it to be; a place of rest and safety.  I’ve come to accept the fact that I’ll never be perfectly organized and tidy.  I’m okay with that.  But I’ve listed some attitudes and tools that have helped me maintain a sense of control.  A place to start and things to remember when I’m feeling bogged down or overwhelmed.  As a person with a chronic illness I have trouble sticking to daily routines because not every day comes with the energy or ability to do even the smallest tasks.  I’m working on creating habits that help me on my good days and my bad days.  Getting rid of clutter is just a part of the process; as well as having a spiritual purpose or mindfulness behind the tasks that I do.

Good Luck and Blessed Be!

This post was inspired by the writing prompt at The Pagan Experience for more posts about the Law Of Attraction from Pagan Blogs click here

Housekeeping and The Law of Attraction

I’ve been writing a series of blog posts about Magickal Housekeeping and the spiritual aspects of the home, room by room.  Starting with the spiritual power of Clearing Your Space and getting rid of clutter I’ve challenged myself and my readers to begin to declutter the home.  I’ve so far covered the Bathroom and the Bedroom and will be moving on to the Kitchen soon.

This post is a bit of a follow-up on the original post on this series – Clutter As A Block To Spiritual Flow.  I wanted to talk again about the Law of Attraction.  As mentioned in my original post, Clutter and mess can be a factor in slowly draining away energy, or blocking the flow of energy in your home.  The best of intentions and the positive thinking that are crucial aspects of the Law of Attraction can be diminished if your home is in disarray.

Trust me, my home is far from clean and organized!  I’m probably the last person to be telling someone else how to get organized!  But, I’ve recognized it as a challenge for myself and have learned a lot over the past few years.  My housework has become a spiritual practice – giving it meaning instead of letting it feel like a chore that I do grudgingly.  I often fall behind on my goals and upkeep – I suffer from Chronic Migraines that end up limiting how much I can do from day to day.  When I feel good, I often spend my time playing “catch up” on the chores like laundry, dishes, and basic cleaning. This is part of why I’m challenging myself to de-clutter and get organized.  It is much easier to maintain and “catch up” when there isn’t all this extra stuff cluttering up the place!  Plus I know I have felt a difference in a room that has less junk.  When the things in a room all serve a purpose – and they are all either useful or beautiful – the room functions as it is designed.

Here are some of my thoughts about The Law of Attraction and how it applies to the home and housekeeping:

  • Everything around you elicits some kind of emotional response or thought.  The pile of papers on your desk that need to be organized – makes you feel stressed, overwhelmed, or panicked at the thought of those upcoming bills or things to do.  The beautiful trinket that is a family heirloom and makes you think of a beloved family member can bring feelings of comfort or belonging.  The gift that was given to you by an Ex – while it is nice and you like it, just reminds you of the failed relationship or the anger associated with that person.  The clean countertop with a beautiful vase of flowers makes you feel refreshed and joyful every time you walk past it.  Now, thinking of the Law of Attraction and how our thoughts and feelings attract things to our lives – which of the above examples would you want around you?  It’s easier to maintain the positive thinking when you’re surrounded by things that promote feelings of positivity.  And much harder to maintain the positive attitude when things around you are consistently making you feel stressed, regretful, or sad.

  • What are you thinking of while you clean the house?  If you’re thinking “I hate doing this.” or feeling angry that other household members haven’t helped out as much as they should; what effect is that having on the Law of Attraction?  If you can maintain some level of mindfulness while you do your chores, however – you can change those simple jobs into a beautiful experience.  While you wash the dishes, try focusing on feelings of gratitude.  After all if you have dirty dishes it means that you had food to eat.  You have running water and dishes to eat off of.  When you sweep or mop the floor you can visualize sweeping away the negativity or any stress that may have entered your home.  When you fold the laundry you can focus on feelings of love and protection for each family member.  There are many ways you can turn those chores into active meditations or spiritual rituals.  And then they become a powerful source of positivity to contribute to the Law of Attraction, rather than moments of frustration or anger that are attracting the wrong sort of energy.

  • Taking care of your home is a strong expression of LOVE – for yourself and your family.  I love the website www.FlyLady.org and the methods FlyLady teaches.  Her primary message is that cleaning your home is a powerful act of Self Love.  F.L.Y. stands for “Finally Loving Yourself” and she teaches that creating simple routines and doing little things every day to bless your home is simply another act of self care.  Just as we must care for our body with healthy diet and hygiene, we must take care of our environment as well.  Not only does it do the obvious part of providing a sanitary place to eat and sleep; it also promotes an environment that is good for our mental and spiritual health.  Avoiding the stress of trying to find some important paperwork that was lost in a pile of clutter.  Feeling more empowered to go about the tasks of the day because you have a plan, a routine.  Having more time to focus on the things that truly bring us joy and satisfaction. 

Having a “Perfect” home is not the goal.  It’s about creating a home that is functional to what you need it to be; a place of rest and safety.  I’ve come to accept the fact that I’ll never be perfectly organized and tidy.  I’m okay with that.  But I’ve listed some attitudes and tools that have helped me maintain a sense of control.  A place to start and things to remember when I’m feeling bogged down or overwhelmed.  As a person with a chronic illness I have trouble sticking to daily routines because not every day comes with the energy or ability to do even the smallest tasks.  I’m working on creating habits that help me on my good days and my bad days.  Getting rid of clutter is just a part of the process; as well as having a spiritual purpose or mindfulness behind the tasks that I do.

Good Luck and Blessed Be!

This post was inspired by the writing prompt at The Pagan Experience for more posts about the Law Of Attraction from Pagan Blogs click here

Mindfulness Practice – Making Your Bed

I have been adding my thoughts on how cleaning your house, even the simple stuff, can be part of a spiritual devotion.  This week I’ve been focusing on the bedroom so today I wanted to talk about the simple act of making your bed.  I’ve discussed how having a clean, organized bedroom can help promote a restful night’s sleep, provide you with a relaxing space to unwind, encourage a healthy relationship with your partner, and possibly even be a Sacred Space for your meditation area or your Altar.  You begin your day and end your day in your bedroom. 

When you begin your day, it is the best time to set your intentions for the day.  A few minutes to check-in with your Spirit or Higher self and decide what you want out of the day.  When our bed is made, we feel like our day is officially beginning!  It reduces the temptation to just crawl back under the covers, and it makes the bed that much more welcoming at bedtime when we are done with our day and ready to go to sleep!

 When I make my bed, I like to say a little blessing prayer for the day.  I feel like when I make my bed, I am turning the page to a brand new day.  I am saying “yesterday is over.” and preparing to start a new day.  Each day is a blank page, a fresh start in writing our story!  Making the bed doesn’t take long, but I love to take those few moments to take a deep breath, turn the page from yesterday to today, and say a blessing for the day ahead of me!

In ancient yogic traditions, as well as Buddhist teachings, we find a practice called “Mindfulness”.  It’s about being fully aware of what you are doing in the present moment.  Being aware of your actions, your feelings, and your intentions.  Making your bed is a good place to start with practicing a few minutes a day of Mindful Awareness, and of Devoting some time to your Spiritual Practice.

A simple prayer for making your bed might include gratitude for your sleep and safety, followed by an affirmation or promise to make the most out of your day.

Example;
“I am grateful for the sleep, safety, dreams and healing I received here last night.
Today is new!  Yesterday is done and today I begin again!
My goal for today is _____________________”

Simple visualization and focusing on a feeling of gratitude is enough!  Just focus on the task of making your bed while holding the feeling of gratitude in your heart and try not to let your mind wander!

Clear Your Space – The Bedroom

Last week I blogged about the importance of Getting rid of clutter and “Clearing Your Space” as your home environment, clutter and things around you have an effect on the energy in your home and flowing through you & your family.  I decided I needed to focus on getting rid of some clutter in my home and invited you to join me as I go room to room.  I started with The Bathroom and now I’m moving on to the Master Bedroom!



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Not my room!  Just a nice picture!

Identifying The Energy Focus of the Bedroom
Everyone’s home and home life is a bit different.  Some people only use their bedrooms for sleeping and sex.  Some others may have a multi-purpose bedroom that is also their home office.  So to start, it’s best to identify how your bedroom is used, and what kind of energy you want to encourage in your bedroom.  Is it a Sanctuary?  Do you need better sleep?  Is it a place where you want more romance?  Are you trying to conceive a child?  Who do you share the room with?  Does the bedroom also have another use, such as a computer room / office?  Is there a meditation area or an altar?

I’m lucky to have a large bedroom, but it’s broken down into different areas.  Obviously I have my bed and a dresser with my clothes.  I also have a couple different altars and a meditation area.  My desk is in here with my computer – so yes it’s also an office.  Oh, and did I mention my son shares our bedroom with us?  (Due to the number of bedrooms in the house.  His bed and belongings are on the opposite side of the room from mine and my husband’s)

Since this is a multi-purpose room, and is used by all members of the family (because the kids need to use the computer too!) I find it easier to break my room down into sections rather than just “The Bedroom” as a whole.  If you have a smaller bedroom or don’t use it for as many purposes, this room’s energy will be a lot easier for you to identify.

You see, everything is energy – including our thoughts and wishes!  If our thoughts and wishes swirl around our room and get “stuck” on clutter – they just get bogged down and lose potency.  Plus, a big part of manifesting anything is feeling good!  If you’re content, happy, and not distracted or stressed out, it’s so much easier to use positive visualization, meditation, or ritual to manifest what you want!

Sleeping and Dreaming
Since MOST people use their bedrooms primarily for sleeping, we’ll start there.  There have been studies that show a clean and organized environment helps promote a better night’s sleep.  If your room is cluttered; laundry is on the floor, the bedside table is covered with junk, the dresser is in shambles, and even things piled up under your bed – well it’s no wonder you’re having trouble sleeping!  (Interesting note – in Feng Shui it is widely believed that a dirty kitchen sink will prevent a good night’s sleep as well!  So there’s another reason to wash those dishes and shine that sink before bed!)  Sleep is quite possibly one of the most magickal things we do.  While we sleep our body heals and rejuvenates itself – even regenerates new cells!  Our brains enter into states that they rarely enter during the day, and science has shown that these sleep states are crucial to our body’s health and healing ability.  And we dream!  Dreaming has long been associated with the magickal and mystical.  Whether we practice lucid dreaming, or receive messages from our ancestors, or just get to let our brains sort through our fears and worries – dreaming is an important part of life!  So, as you begin, just look around your bedroom and ask yourself; is this area helping me sleep?  What can be moved, organized, or simply gotten rid of to help me sleep better in this space?  I’ve found the simple acts of cleaning out under the bed, making the bed every day when I get up, and keeping the surfaces of any bedside tables neat and clean is very helpful in promoting a good night’s sleep.  You can also place some crystals near your bed to help you sleep, or make a sleep pillow with herbs in it.  I’ll be posting a couple tips and spells about sleeping and dreaming this week to go along with our bedroom topic!

Romance and Sex
Whether you’re in a relationship or not – if sex is going to happen it will probably happen in the bedroom!  Hey, by all means be adventurous!  If you prefer the couch or the kitchen table, go for it!  But I’m guessing those other places are for sometimes and the bed is going to be the most comfortable and natural place for those things to happen!  If you’re wanting to attract a realationship and some romance into your life – you need a clean bedroom to help you manifest that!  If you’re in a relationship already and want to spice things up or keep those flames going – you’re going to need a clean bedroom to manifest that!  If you’re trying to conceive – guess what – you’re going to need a clean bedroom to help manifest that!  So look around your room again.  What things in your room are “blocking” that sexy time energy?  A pile of bills and paperwork from work is probably not helping you or your partner feel relaxed and in the mood.  Kid’s toys cluttering up the floor are probably not helping either.  If you live alone, then things that remind you that you’re single and make you feel lonely or sad are not going to help you attract a partner – or simply feel okay with being single!  A really simple thing to do when trying to decide what to keep or not (this applies to every room) is to pick an item – look at it and ask, “Do I feel good when I look at this?”  If not – you need to let go of that item!  Once you get rid of things that make you feel bad, or clutter that is detracting from the romance factor in your bedroom – you can then start looking for things to decorate the room to help promote attraction, sex, romance, or fertility.  But don’t just add these things on top of or next to clutter!  That clutter will just drain away any effect those items might have had!

Self-Care & Sanctuary
Another purpose of the bedroom has a lot to do with self-care.  We pick out our clothes, get dressed, and put on our shoes in the mornings.  In the evenings we undress.  We recover from illness or sickness in our bedrooms too.  We may do things to “wind down” or relax in our bedroom such as reading, watching tv or a movie, and cuddling with the kids (or the cat or dog)! It’s where our day begins and ends.  So as you look around your room, ask yourself – on what note am I beginning and ending each day with this environment?  It should be somewhere you feel safe, comforted, relaxed, and truly yourself!  This is why so many people refer to their bedroom as a “sanctuary” – it should be a safe place not just for your body, but for your mind and spirit!  Keeping this space organized and clutter free will help it feel like a sanctuary.  A problem some people have is that their bedroom becomes a “dumping ground” for things through the day.  Don’t have time to fold and put away those clothes right now?  Just throw them in the bedroom.  Need to go through this pile of mail or paperwork, but don’t have time right now?  Throw it in the bedroom.  It becomes the “I’ll deal with it later” space because of the Out Of Sight – Out Of Mind concept.  If you can’t see it, it doesn’t exist.  Until you go to bed – then you remember it!  But by then you’re tired and on your way to bed, so it gets ignored again “until tomorrow”.  Since any guests who come over won’t see your bedroom, you feel like it’s okay for this room to be messy, because no one sees it but you.  But what kind of message are you sending yourself with that attitude?  You’re saying that other people’s thoughts/feelings/opinions are more important than your own!  You’re saying that your own comfort comes last!  Taking the time to create a Sanctuary in your bedroom is a Scared act of Self-Love!  You deserve to have a place to unwind, relax, and feel safe!  A place where you can just be you!

What next?
So I’ve given you some ideas of what your bedroom energy should be focused on, and why.  You’ve looked around your room and asked all the right questions.  Now it’s time to tackle some clutter and start clearing your space!  We’ll use the same process we did in the bathroom;

Clearing The Space In Your Bedroom

  • Choose a time to focus on your bedroom.  It can be as simple as 15 minutes a day for a few days, to one hour . . . whatever works best for you.  Don’t overwhelm or overwork yourself!  Pick one area to focus on at a time.
  • Gather what you need.  Trash bags, a box for items to donate, cleaning products.  If you want- bring a candle or some incense and crystals to set up a temporary altar.  This will help you stay focused on your task as a spiritual process of releasing and cleansing.  Think about what Deity you may want to help you, or what Deity you will dedicate your work to.  . 
  • When you’re ready to begin, start by simply sitting in your bedroom.  Think about the type of space you want it to be.  Sleep, Romance, Sanctuary, etc.  Visualize how you would like the room to look.  Visualize yourself and your family being healed, comforted, and blessed when they use the space.  Light your candle and say a prayer to the Deity you want to work with.  Ask for their blessing on your work and your bathroom
  • Go to the area you’ve chosen to work on.  This might be the bed, dresser, desk, bookshelf, or side-tables.  (Just pick ONE area at a time!  Take everything out.  Wipe down the surface, visualizing that it is not only physically cleaned, but energetically cleaned.  Then pick up each item you took out.  Ask the following; *Do I need this?  *Do I actually use this?  *Does it promote the energy that I want in this space?  Does it make me feel good when I see it? If your answer to any of these questions is NO – you can either throw it away, donate it, or put it aside to be put somewhere else.  (If it is something you need and use, but doesn’t belong in the bedroom you can keep it but it needs to be “rehomed” to a more appropriate area)
  • Put back neatly the things you are keeping.  Take the throw-away items to the trash.  Put items that need to be put away somewhere else in a small box and take them out of the bedroom.
  • Feel gratitude!  Thank yourself for releasing things you don’t need!  Thank yourself for taking the time to cleanse this space and dedicate it to becoming an area of Sanctuary.  You may choose to smudge with sage or a blessing incense.  Thank whatever Deity you worked with for their blessing on the area.
  • Dedicate yourself to keeping that area clutter-free.  Maybe once a week you can take 15 minutes to quickly look through your bedroom and make sure that only the things that belong there are there.  Pick one day as a “bedroom rescue” day – say Mondays – and make a reminder to yourself to simply bless and maintain this area once a week.  OR you might choose to do a quick “sweep” every morning.  Since you wake up in your bedroom every morning to get ready for your day – why not just take an extra minute or two while you’re in there to keep things clear and make sure clutter doesn’t build up. Same for the evenings – part of your bedtime routine can be just a couple minutes to pick up / neaten your bedroom again before you go to sleep.

Repeat as needed in other areas of your bedroom until it’s done!  Remember it can be just one area a day, or all in one day depending on your time and energy.  Just take breaks between areas if you need to!

Overwhelmed? 
Need some missions to help you get started?  Sometimes if a room is particularly cluttered it can be overwhelming to think about cleaning it up.  Here are a few missions from FlyLady.net to get you started.

Mission # 1 – Clean Out Under Your Bed!  Go on, pull everything out!  Chances are, there’s a lot under there you didn’t realize was there!  You may find something you had lost!  Throw away any trash, put things where they belong.  You’ll feel a difference in the room once this is done!

Mission # 2 – Organize your sock drawer.  Get rid of socks that don’t have mates, underwear that is old and worn out, or things that don’t fit.  Get rid of anything that may have been hastily put in the drawer, put it away or get rid of it!  This is a simple task but you’ll feel better when you can just reach in the drawer and grab the socks or underwear you want without digging around!

Mission # 3 – Dust!  Get a washcloth or a duster and get those “up high” places around your room.  Shelves, windowsills, and the tops of dust frames.  Don’t obsess, just quickly wipe away any dust that has gathered!

Mission # 4 – Clear off the tops of the nightstands or bedside tables.  Put away books you aren’t reading, throw away those old tissues, water bottles, or candy wrappers!  It will make a huge difference to have a flat surface next to your bed that only has a few things on it!  A lamp, a book, a crystal or gemstone, or a framed photograph of family/loved ones.

Mission # 5 – Clear off the top of your dresser or desk.  Same as the bedside table, a flat surface with a few intentionally placed items will make the space so much more inviting!  Get a bowl or jewelry box for your jewelry instead of just having it dumped on the dresser.  Have a plate for your keys and change from your pockets.  Place a few items that make you feel happy and safe and promote the energy of your bedroom – then put everything else away!

After you’ve done those 5 missions, you might feel brave enough to begin working on the hidden areas – like inside the dresser drawers!  The closet?  The desk drawers?  Yeah there are plenty of hidden places in our bedrooms holding clutter.  Don’t worry about getting it all done in a week!  Just work on a little at a time, when you have time and feel up to it.

Good Luck!

Bathroom Blessings and Spells

Last week I started a De-Cluttering project – to get rid of clutter in the home.  Both for practical purposes and spiritual purposes.  I started in the Bathroom.

I created a sacred space in my bathroom by making a small altar in this window ledge.  Candles, seashells, a clay Goddess figurine, and my Yemaya Mojo Bag.

I cleaned my countertops and went through the cabinets and drawers and managed to get rid of quite a bit of clutter that had been hiding there!  It is amazing how much stuff just gets put aside to use or deal with “later”.  And “later” never really comes!  It felt good to let go of and release some things, and re-organize other things.  My bathroom truly feels like a relaxing retreat now!

An example of Before & After under the sink:

Before

After
 

Before

After

With my cleansing and blessing of the space, now when I go in my bathroom I am reminded of the importance of self-care.  And I’m reminded that many acts of self-care can be so magickal!  You can turn the act of bathing, showering, or washing your face into a simple ritual of cleanising, releasing, and banishing.  You can turn the acts of brushing your hair or applying make-up into simple rituals of beauty and self love!

If you’re interested in spells or rituals for your bathroom, here are a few links:

A really great book; Enchantments: 200 spells for Bath and Beauty

Here I have a Detox bath and Meditation with Yemaya

Cleansing Bath

Another Book; Wicca Spiritual Bath Spells

Book; Crossroads Mama 105 Spiritual Baths for Every Occasion

Book: Magical Herbal Baths of Santeria

If I add other Bath/Beauty type spells or rituals here after this blog post, they will be tagged under “bathroom” so you’ll be able to find them!  I have a few I want to share, I’ll add them when I have time! 

Clear Your Space – The Bathroom

Ready to start clearing your space and turning your whole home into a spiritual haven?  I’m starting this week in the bathroom.  Feel free to join me!  Comment with a link to your own blog or just a simple text comment with your goals and progress!

Identify The Purpose of Your Bathroom
What kind of energy do you want in your bathroom?  I consider the bathroom the home of the Water element in my home, as it tends to have a lot of water energy with the shower or bath and sinks!  Bathrooms are a center of self-care and healing.  We release toxins on a daily basis (yes, everyone poops!) wash our faces, brush our teeth, bathe, and beautify ourselves in our bathrooms.  So if you start to think of your bathroom as your center of Healing and Self-Care you can focus on what things in that room serve that purpose. 
The bathroom can be an important area for the Household Witch.  Bathing is often recommended to clear your energy before ritual, and the bath or shower can be a powerful place to focus energy for healing.  For some, the act of Hair Brushing or braiding can be part of a ritual or spiritual practice, as can the other “mundane” tasks of daily self care like putting on makeup- brushing teeth, taking vitamins or medications, etc. Keep these in mind as you work on your bathroom.

Clearing The Space In Your Bathroom

  • Choose a time to focus on your bathroom.  It can be as simple as 15 minutes a day for a few days, to one hour . . . whatever works best for you.  Don’t overwhelm or overwork yourself!  Pick one area to focus on at a time.
  • Gather what you need.  Trash bags, a box for items to donate, cleaning products.  If you want- bring a candle or some incense and crystals to set up a temporary altar.  This will help you stay focused on your task as a spiritual process of releasing and cleansing.  Think about what Deity you may want to help you, or what Deity you will dedicate your work to.  For the bathroom I think a Goddess of Healing or a Goddess associated with Water would be perfect!  Don’t fixate just call upon who you feel comfortable working with. 
  • When you’re ready to begin, start by simply sitting in your bathroom.  Think about the type of space you want it to be.  Healing, Comforting, Blessing, Cleansing.  Visualize how you would like the room to look.  Visualize yourself and your family being healed, comforted, blessed and cleansed when they use the space.  Light your candle and say a prayer to the Deity you want to work with.  Ask for their blessing on your work and your bathroom
  • Go to the area you’ve chosen to work on.  This might be the countertop, the medicine cabinet, under the sink, or the shelves in the shower/bath.  Take everything out.  Wipe down the surface, visualizing that it is not only physically cleaned, but energetically cleaned.  Then pick up each item you took out.  Ask the following; *Do I need this?  *Do I actually use this?  *Does it promote the energy of healing and cleansing that I want in this space?  If your answer to any of these questions is NO – you can either throw it away, donate it, or put it aside to be put somewhere else.  (If it is something you need and use, but doesn’t belong in the bathroom you can keep it but it needs to be “rehomed” to a more appropriate area)
  • Put back neatly the things you are keeping.  Take the throw-away items to the trash.  Put items that need to be put away somewhere else in a small box and take them out of the bathroom.
  • Feel gratitude!  Thank yourself for releasing things you don’t need!  Thank yourself for taking the time to cleanse this space and dedicate it to becoming an area of Healing.  You may choose to smudge with sage or a blessing incense.  Thank whatever Deity you worked with for their blessing on the area.
  • Dedicate yourself to keeping that area clutter-free.  Maybe once a week you can take 15 minutes to quickly look through your bathroom and make sure that only the things that belong there are there.  Pick one day as a “bathroom rescue” day – say Wednesdays – and make a reminder to yourself to simply bless and maintain this area once a week.  OR you might choose to do a quick “sweep” every morning.  Since you probably use your bathroom every morning to get ready for your day – why not just take an extra minute or two while you’re in there to keep things clear and make sure clutter doesn’t build up.

Repeat as needed in other areas of your bathroom until it’s done!  Remember it can be just one area a day, or all in one day depending on your time and energy.  Just take breaks between areas if you need to!

For my Bathroom Cleansing & Blessing, I’ll probably work with Yemaya – Mother Goddess of the Ocean that I work with for Healing bath rituals.  Her healing and mothering energy seem the perfect compliment to my focus and purpose for my bathroom!  I’ll post at the end of the week with my progress / results of my bathroom blessing!  I’d love to hear about your process too!  Comment here or on my facebook page!

Here’s some simple tips from FlyLady about your bathroom: http://www.flylady.net/d/zones/zone-3/
And, if you’re ready to think about Feng-Shui in your bathroom, here’s some tips; http://fengshui.about.com/od/designbyroom/ss/Create-Good-Feng-Shui-in-Your-Bathroom.htm

Clutter as a block to Spiritual Flow

I’ll admit it – like many people, clutter is a problem for me.  With three kids, my husband and my brother living here with me, it seems like clutter is a constant battle.  Things just seem to accumulate.  Yes, a lot of things are useful, helpful, convenient to have.  But it’s amazing how things just add up, multiply, pile up, and become a mess. 

I’ve realized and accepted long ago that clutter can be a source of stress in any environment.  Have you noticed that after you clean up a certain room, the energy in that space will just feel better?  Clearer.  Like you can breathe easier and just relax better?  That’s because everything has an energy to it.  Just like your crystals and gemstones or magickal tools carry a certain vibration, so does everything else in your home.  When you enter a room, you will pick up these subtle vibrations and it will immediately effect how you feel.

We all have heard of having a “Sacred Space” in our home… it may be an altar, a meditation area, a yoga room, etc.  It is good to have a place devoted to a spiritual practice; a place that you go just for meditation or prayer.  If we use the same space repeatedly for that purpose, and keep it clear of clutter and decorate it with things that bring us peace – it becomes a Sacred Space and will amplify our ability to meditate, pray, or focus on spiritual matters in that area.  But really, why keep it to just one part of our home?  Shouldn’t our entire home be a place of spiritual respite?  We should be able to feel safe, relaxed, and spiritually fulfilled no matter what part of our home we are in!

One of the biggest blocks to feeling this way is clutter!  Those things that are laying around serving no purpose and just blocking the flow of peaceful energy in our home.  Feng Shui is a spiritual practice of clearing and improving the flow of energy in the home, and it’s basic principal is that everything in your home is either inviting or blocking some sort of energy.  It’s a great place to start if you’re interested in making your entire home into more of a relaxing safe haven.  But I suggest that the best way to start is just by clearing out clutter, getting rid of things that don’t serve a purpose.  Decorating and placement of items using Feng Shui is great, but if you’re just moving around clutter you won’t really be doing much to cure the energy of your home.

Making Clutter Clearing into a Spiritual Experience

I find that usually when I’m inspired to start getting rid of clutter in my home (again) it usually coincides with an internal need to remove blocks and move forward.  As I work on the physical clutter, I experience the removal of internal blocks.  It can be a powerful time of personal healing, and a wonderful “active meditation” that serves a dual purpose of healing my home and my inner being.  As I approach an area or task, it helps me to call upon Goddess to help me make the act of cleaning into a spiritual practice.  Keeping a mindful awareness is key.  You’ll have to ask yourself as you pick up each item; what purpose does this serve?  What energy do I feel when I see or touch this item?  Have I used it in the last 6 months?  Does it remind me of a person or a time in my life – and does that memory trigger positive feelings or negative ones?  If I keep it, is there a better place to keep it?

It can be easy to get overwhelmed in this process!  Try to break down each room into smaller areas and just focus on one area at a time.  Pick something you can complete in one hour or less.  So instead of thinking “I need to clear the clutter out of my bedroom closet”, make a goal of one box or shelf in that closet.

Before you begin, set your intention.  You might want to light a candle and say a paryer or affirmation before you begin.  You can call upon a specific Deity to help you with the process.  There are many household Deities who love to help you do anything that blesses your home.  You can devote your work into an offering to them, or just ask them to assist you with your goal.    You may want to research some household Deities to see which you are called to work with (or just try working with the Deities you already work with for spiritual purposes).  You might find you’re called to work with a different Deity for a different room or part of the home depending on the type of energy in that space or what you want to attract to that space. 

A short list of Household/Hearth Deities;

  • Hestia (Greek Goddess of the Hearth & Home)
  • Vesta (Roman Goddess of Hearth)
  • Brigid (Celtic/Irish Goddess of the Home)
  • Tsao Wang (Chinese God of the Home & Kitchen)
  • Kamui-fuchi (Japanese Goddess of the Hearth)
  • Kamado-no-kami (Japanese God of the Kitchen)
  • Gabija (Lithuanian Goddess of home protection)
  • Ertha (Domestic Deity of Norns / Northern Europe)
  • Frigga (Norse Goddess of Domestic Life and Household management)
  • Bes (Egyptian God of Household protection)
  • Artemis (Greek Goddess – protection, goal setting, manifestation)
  • Kuan Yin (Chinese Goddess of Compassion & Protection – especially for Mothers & Children)
  • Lakshmi (Hindu Goddess of Blessings and Abundance)

Archangels that can be called upon to help with Space Clearing

  • Jophiel – “Beauty of God” – helps to beautify space, clears away negativity to help us see beauty in all things, supporter of artists.
  • Michael – “Warrior of God” – protects lightworkers from lower energies – will help protect the home and escort away any negative energy.
  • Raphael  – “Healer of God” – heals physical and emotional pains and ailments, also helps remove negative energies to promote healing in that area

Card from the Archangel Oracle Card deck by Doreen Virtue, Hay House

Message from Archangel Jophiel ; “Your home and work environments affect you on many levels. Clutter can erode your energy, creativity, and prosperity. I’ll help you find the time and motivation to clear interferences from your physical environment. Together, we’ll release anything thats not serving you. We’ll donate, recycle, or discard unused items. We’ll open the windows to circulate fresh air in the rooms. And I’ll escort lower energies away. You’ll notice huge improvements in all areas of your life as a result of this endeavor.”

I’m going to be working on clearing some clutter from my home in the next few weeks.  I’ll post my weekly goals here on the blog and if you want to join me I’ll be here to support you and encourage you!  I’ll post an area or room to focus on and maybe an affirmation or meditation/prayer to help us focus on our goal!

FlyLady – Pagan Style; Shine Your Sink!

For those of you who don’t know what FlyLady is, it’s an inspirational website designed to help you clean and de-clutter your home and your life. It helps you create routines that work for you, your lifestyle & your family to help housekeeping become stress-free and something you just do naturally and daily rather than something you put off until the last minute and then stress about when you have company coming over.

I have felt for awhile now that many aspects of the FlyLady program can be applied in spiritual ways to those who consider themselves, Neo-Pagans, Kitchen Witches, Hearth Witches, Green Witches, etc.  I will be going over some FlyLady basics here in my blog and writing about how they can be seen as a spiritual thing; not just a house-cleaning and organizing thing!  If you missed it, check out my post called “FlyLady – Pagan Style; Welcome Letter”

When you start with FlyLady, there are 31 days of “Baby Steps” to help you slowly start to integrate small changes into your daily routines.  It’s about developing habits and changing your mind-set to a positive one!

BabyStep Day 1;
SHINE YOUR SINK!

Read FlyLady’s Day 1 letter here; Day One- Shine Your Sink

My favorite part of this letter is where she says; “The voices that you hear in your head keep telling you that you are behind and you have to get it all done now. We are going to quiet those negative voices that are beating you up constantly and replace them with a loving, gentle voice that tells you that you are not behind and you can do this one BabyStep at a time!”

You may look around your house and think there are areas that need more work than my kitchen sink!  The desk is covered with paperwork, the closets are overflowing, The kid’s rooms look like a tornado hit.  It’s okay.  We are going to listen to FlyLady and start with one small task for today.  We are going to shine that kitchen sink!  Then for the rest of the day, we are going to keep it shining!  Before you go to bed, make sure it is shining again!  Even if you do nothing else today, and the rest of your house is messy, you will LOVE waking up to a shiny sink!  Trust me!

Here is FlyLady’s “Lesson” on How To Shine Your Sink! Check it out!

Keeping your sink shining is going to be your first habit with FlyLady.  Even when I fall way off the bandwagon and my whole house is a mess, I know exactly where to start to feel better… the kitchen sink!  Once my sink is shining I usually feel the motivation start to flow again, and it’s easier to keep going and start work on other areas of my home.  Energetically, this makes sense, because all sinks and drains in our home represent and reflect “energy flow” both in and out of our homes.  If the sink is blocked with dishes, clogged with dirt, or just plain grimy, how does this effect the flow of energy in and out of our homes?
In Feng-shui, the Kitchen is associated with both Health and Prosperity, as well as being the “Heart” of the home.  So, as you clean your sink it can be great to visualize this task as a moment you take to care for the “Heart” of your home.  Open the flow of energy… let the good pour in and the bad drain away!  You can easily make the process of shining your sink into a Home Blessing Ritual!  Smudge with some sage, pour salt water down the drain, visualize and pray for the energy flow of your home to become open and cleansed.  Here is a great article called “Clearing Your Sink and Magickally Sealing It.” by Confessions of a Pagan Soccer Mom…. I love her ideas and I have incorporated her suggestions with my monthly sink-clearing ritual, as well as just simply visualizing and praying while I shine my sink each night before bed!

So now you have read FlyLady’s First Babystep and how to Shine your Sink in a spiritual, magickal mindset!  Off you go…. shine your sink and let yourself feel proud of this small but important task!

FlyLady, Pagan Style! Welcome Letter

For those of you who don’t know what FlyLady is, it’s an inspirational website designed to help you clean and de-clutter your home and your life.  It helps you create routines that work for you, your lifestyle & your family to help housekeeping become stress-free and something you just do naturally and daily rather than something you put off until the last minute and then stress about when you have company coming over.

I have found the FlyLady system to be a wonderful and positive way to get my life in order, although admittedly, I haven’t followed it as closely as I could have!  I have “fallen off the bandwagon” more than a few times!  Yet one of the great things about FlyLady is that you can jump back in at any time!  With FlyLady, I always know exactly where to start!!

Over the years, I have found ways to integrate my spirituality into my household cleaning.  Wait, did I just say that House Cleaning is Spiritual?? Yes, it can be!  I am a Pagan, more specifically an eclectic Neo-Pagan, meaning that I draw from MANY spiritual paths which focus on Nature and the natural cycles of the world we live in.  For many Pagans and Witches, our homes are the central place of our worship, our spiritual learning, our meditation, etc.  Since we don’t have Churches to go to, and we don’t limit ourselves to only experiencing nature when we are outdoors, it makes sense to think of our homes as our “Temple”, or our Sacred Place.  Many Pagans and witches also believe that their spiritual path is a Lifestyle, not just something they do once a week or on the Blessed Sabbats or the Full Moon.  I have found through FlyLady and my own spiritual path, that even the mundane, daily tasks that come with being a wife, a mother, and a housekeeper, can be beautiful parts of my daily Spiritual Life, and I wanted to share with you some ways that I have done this.

I will be going through the different aspects of FlyLady, and talking about how I apply them to my own life as a Pagan.  Today we begin with The Welcome Letter!

When you first join FlyLady you get a Welcome Letter. (and by the way, if you follow my blog, please join FlyLady or at least bookmark the FlyLady website for reference!)  This letter explains the basic idea behind the FlyLady program and how it works.  Please click the Link and read the welcome letter for yourself!!

The first thing you read is what FLY means.  It means Finally Loving Yourself!  All the great spiritual teachers of our time and times long past have taught us that without first Loving Ourselves, we cannot truly love others.  Buddha, Paramasana Yogananda, The Dalai Lama, Ghandi, Jesus, Doreen Virtue, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Sonia Choquette, Louise Hay, Starhawk… to name a few; all teach us that when we truly see ourselves as Divine Children of God/Goddess/The Universe, we begin to truly love ourselves and then the flow of love to others and from others comes more naturally!  With the basic Law of Attraction, if we Love Our self, we invite Love into our lives.  This isn’t meaning a type of love that involves vanity or a feeling of self-importance in that we are better than anyone else.  We are all children of the Divine!  But if you don’t love yourself the way you love your own children; unconditionally – then you block the flow of true Divine Love from flowing to you and through you!  Without loving yourself, you are constantly criticising yourself, seeing the negative instead of the positive.

When you FLY, you embrace the positive and develop a desire to bring more positive into your life.  When you FLY, you want to eliminate the negatives to make room for the positives.  Maybe you have too much clutter.  Maybe you keep a clean home, but neglect taking care of yourself.  Perhaps you are really good at keeping parts of your home clean and orderly, but there are certain areas that build up and become a source of stress for you.  Maybe you procrastinate and let things build up to the point where it creates stress and a burden upon yourself and your family.  When you FLY, you look around your home and you think, why I am I letting myself – a beautiful Child of The Divine – live in chaos?

FlyLady’s Welcome Letter explains that by taking one step at a time, the program will help you build daily routines and weekly plans that will help you run your household more efficiently, thus relieving yourself of stress.  If you embrace the ideal of FLYing (Finally Loving Yourself), then the desire to do this grows stronger.  Building routines takes time, and patience with yourself.  You have to work on developing new habits, slowly, piece by piece; trusting that eventually you will overcome whatever difficulties you may face.  The FlyLady program will help you develop these new habits and new routines, or build on the routines you already have in place.  It starts with the BabySteps, and onward to Daily Flightplans and weekly “Zone Missions”, all of which are described in detail on the FlyLady website but I will (hopefully) also cover here – with a Pagan Twist!

Whether you are new to FlyLady, or have been doing it for awhile, take some time today to think about how you Love Yourself.  Are you really acting in ways that show self-love?  Are you being really hard on yourself, criticizing your failures and shortcomings?  Think about your inner voice – is it Loving towards you, or mean?  Would you talk to your child the way you talk to yourself?  How is your self-love reflected in your Daily Life at home?  Are you avoiding things that stress you out?  Is this avoidance just creating more stress and more critical self-talk?  The first step to changing negative self-talk to positive self talk is to be AWARE of your self talk.  Listen to your inner voice, and when you find it being un-loving to yourself, stop and think something positive instead.  Changing your self-talk is something that will take time, and take practice, starting with Awareness and Intention!

Here is a wonderful video of affirmations that will help you increase your self-love, by Doreen Virtue. 

Starting Over

Confession Time; I’m a horrible housekeeper.
Ironic, since my Matron Goddess is Hestia – Keeper of the Hearth.  But this is exactly why She’s my Matron; I return to her when I need the motivation to care for my home properly.  She reminds me that caring for my household is a great act of Love – for myself and for my family.

In mythology, Hestia volunteered to keep watch over the Fire of the Gods.  Instead of returning to Olympus with her brothers and sisters to reign and rule, she chose a life of service; keeping the Fire of the Gods lit and tended.  In ancient times it was important to keep the hearth fire of the home lit and ready at all times.  It was the source of heat, light, cooking, and other preparations and activities that went on through the day.  If the fire went out or was untended and dwindled – precious time would be needed to get it going again; time that could have been used being more productive.  One never knew when the fire would be needed, so it was best to keep it steadily going.  As Hestia watched over the Fire of The Gods in this way, she became the Goddess of The Hearth and Home, representing the service of the housekeepers that blessed the household and kept it running smoothly. 

In our modern world, we don’t need to keep a fire lit in our homes at all times.  Yet we do take actions that keep the household running smoothly and keep our family safe, fed, and protected.  Paying the electric bill.  Preparing the meals.  Cleaning and Maintaining the home.  Hestia reminds me that these acts of service are a loving choice I make for my family – not an evil chore that I am tied down to or required to do as a slave, but an act of love.

My modern inspiration is the FlyLady.  She has taught me a few simple things that help me keep going, and help pull me back on track when I need it. 

  • FLY – stands for Finally Loving Yourself.  It’s a reminder that the things I DO are a reflection of self love.  When I care for my home, I care for myself.  When I care for myself, I am free and I give myself wings to FLY.
  • Progress, not Perfection.  My home doesn’t have to be perfect.  The little things that I do are a blessing, even if they are not done perfectly!  I don’t have to be “finished” to have progress.  I don’t have to keep a perfect home to be blessed.
  • The power of 15 minutes – Progress can be made in a short period of time.  You’d be surprised how much can get done in just 15 minutes.  No need to overwhelm yourself with a big job – just do what you can in 15 minutes!
  • You’re not behind!  Just start where you are.  This is a big one for me.  With chronic pain and illness, and living with depression and anxiety, I feel like I’m “behind” a lot.  Like I need to “catch up”.  I need to remember, I AM HERE.  I AM NOW.  What I can do NOW is enough.

These are the things I’m reminding myself of now.  I’ve had another period of falling flat on my face and letting things go.  (But that’s okay too – as Akhilandeshvari reminds me!)  I’m working hard to not be angry, disappointed or pass judgement on myself.  It is what it is.  I do what I can.  Sometimes, what I can do is not much at all.  Sometimes, just getting through the day is all I can do.  And that’s okay!  I live in cycles, as does the world and the whole universe! 

As the Spring Equinox and the New Moon approaches, I’m feeling the call of Hestia, awakening me again.  I’m hearing the words and lessons of FlyLady urging me on.  I’m entering a new cycle, and ready to start fresh.  I know that this won’t last forever.  I’ve come to recognize, embrace, and accept that I am never going to stay “on top”; and that I will time and time again repeat this cycle.  I’ll face this feeling again.  That’s okay.  The point is that when I do have my moments of “Spring” and hear the call of Hestia – I will answer. 

My starting point is the Kitchen Sink.  As I mentioned, we don’t really have a “Hearth” in modern homes.  Even homes that have a fireplace – that fireplace Hearth does not necessarily play the role of center of the home.  So what place in the home does serve as the central focus?  For me, it’s the Kitchen Sink.  This is probably because of FlyLady’s teachings of Starting with the Kitchen Sink.  Her theory is that if you keep your kitchen sink shiny, the rest comes easier.  It’s easier to keep up with the dishes if you’re not letting them pile up.  It’s easier to be motivated to keep the rest of the kitchen clean and shiny if the sink is clean and shiny.  It’s easier to be motivated to keep the other rooms of the house clean if the kitchen is clean.  Then the other things you need to do come easier too, because you don’t have to clean before you cook, or you don’t have to clean up the living room just because you want to sit down and relax.  In theory, if you keep your kitchen sink shiny, the rest will fall into place (it still takes work, but that’s the basic idea)  You can read FlyLady’s Kitchen Sink lesson HERE.

So for me, the kitchen sink is becoming my “Hearth Fire”.  It is the place to focus on, it is the place to start and the place to end.  Hestia is considered ‘The First and The Last” and it was traditional to honor her first thing every morning and the last thing every night.  Incidentally – FlyLady says to shine the kitchen sink first thing every morning and the last thing every night.  So this just works! 
I moved my kitchen altar to the window above my kitchen sink.  So there’s Hestia, and an orange candle to represent the Hearth Fire, right above my kitchen sink – reminding me of her lessons. 

I’ll be working on other areas of my home too, as my health permits.  I’ll be blogging more about my goals, my inspiration, and what is working for me or helping me.  But for now I just needed to get this out there; I’m starting over!